What questions to we ask each other??

As parents we often ask each other - how do I get my child to ...? Or how do I get them to stop doing...? What questions do you most often ask? What would be helpful to you?

Sometimes I think that it would be nice to allow them to simply be themselves and not try to make them do anything. I realize that's not always possible but wouldn't it be nice??

I do think that we should take full advantage of the law of attraction and not focus on the behaviors we don't want to see but focus as much as possible on the behaviors we want to see more of.

Have a wonderful day! Just for today try to focus on the best behaviors of your child(ren). Smile often and laugh!

When you make mistakes...

Okay - so how do you handle it when you make a mistake with your children? Do you admit it and apologize? Do you beat yourself up about it?? I'm curious. I know most of us beat ourselves up when we make mistakes. But we are human. I think it is also a wonderful opportunity for our children to see that it is okay to make mistakes. If we berate ourselves for our mistakes, that is how they will learn to treat themselves. If we show them that to err is human and to forgive divine - then they will see the divine nature of each and every one of us. They will also see that we are human and that is wonderful, too. Each mistake is a wonderful opportunity to see another way of doing things...

What do you think the pros and cons of having children are?

I'm looking to see what people think about the pros and cons of having children or if you don't have any or don't want any - what are the pros and cons of that?

There are no right or wrong answers and so much has to do with our own personalities and who we are and what we want. I think we need to cherish and honor who we are and what works for us. I have three wonderful children but I have so much respect for those individuals who know they do not want children and therefore don't. Again, it is a matter of honoring who we are! I love to hear other opinions because we all grow from understanding each other. I have one son who said he wants 10 children and one who says he definitely does not want any : ) I respect both opinions and also know that they can change their minds many times before adulthood!

Please let me know what you think. Have a wonderful day and honor who you are and who your children are!

What do we expect from our children?

What is it that you are expecting from your children? Why do you have those expectations? Are they realistic? Are they yours? Are they based on what other people think? Do your children know exactly what you expect of them? Just some food for thought.

Enjoy the day and laugh with your kids! Be in the moment and see how precious it really is!

Okay - I haven't been on here much but I'm going to start... I'd love to hear answers to the questions I pose. I want to find out why people decide to become parents? Do you think about it much? Do you just know that you always wanted kids and so you have them? As an adult have you thought about what it means to be a parent? What does it mean to you? There are no right and wrong answers to any of these questions but I think it is interesting that many of us decide to have kids when we are a kid and just bring that forward with us rather than really making a decision as an adult. Let me know your thoughts.

Have a wonderful day!

Remembering the child within

It seems like in today's world, it is hard for us to remember that we have a child within us who is still as curious and spellbound by life as our children. It will do them and us good if for today we try to see like through their eyes. Remember that life is meant to be enjoyed. Remember that some of those rules are really meant to be broken. Today - have fun with your children and have fun in general! It is a wonderful new day.

Today's parenting thoughts

Very often as parents we have trouble letting go of what others think. How often have we felt embarrassed by our toddler's tantrum? Yet most of us parents are very aware of the fact that tantrums are "normal" toddler behavior. So why do we cringe when others look at us funny?

Because somehow we fear that people think less of us (and our children) because our kids are not conforming to their expectations! It's really ridiculous when you think about it. We should not care about what others think. We do the best we can and that is all we can do.

Once we allow ourselves (and our children) to simply be - we'll all be much happier.

We need to relax and remember that no one has control over another person. I don't think we really want that for our kids anyway. (Maybe in some situations but long term we don't.) If we control our children when they are with us they may no know how to control themselves when they are on their own. Often children (and adults) rebel when they feel controlled.

Our job is simply to teach them (as best we can) to control themselves and behave in ways that they believe are right. After all that is what "discipline" means - teaching.

In short, be gentle with yourself as a parent and do the best you can. You and your children will be happiest when you do that. We all mistakes and it is okay. We need to teach our children that it is okay, too.

Have a great day and I welcome your feedback!